The Near Win, The Uncertain Goal, and The Value Of Achieving What You Set Your Mind To

  While we might think that there is nothing worse than almost winning, actually, when it comes to our motivation, “near wins” actually add fuel to the fire.   “Motivation,” says Monica Wadhwa of Insitut Europeen d’Administration des Affairs (INSEAD), “is like energy and reward is like direction” (Wadhwa, 2017). And once our motivational energy […]

What Self-Compassion Really Looks Like

We tend to think of self-compassion as being self-indulgent, as coddling ourselves and shirking responsibility. We think it means letting pleasure exclusively dictate our decisions and our days. And we see self-compassion as useless, even harmful. We think that if we put down the whip, we’ll be whittled down to some lazy, slothful, unsuccessful weakling, […]